Dispelling Limiting Beliefs

The biggest obstacles I had reaching millionaire status was much more than others' opinions of me and my capabilities. I had in fact become the block that prevented me from being and having all I could because of the little voices in my head.

No, I'm not schizophrenic, but each of us has a voice that prompts us to think and/or take action. We are usually unaware of what we say to ourselves and with thoughts coming from every direction. It can be based on how you feel at that moment or can easily change the mood depending on how the words affect you.

I was always conscious of my body because of perceived disabilities. Growing up was difficult because I wasn't a part of the cool crowd. My self esteem was totally based on how others perceived me and my words and thoughts reinforced any opinions strewn at me. As I grew older, I began using people's opinions as encouragement to do better and prove I had no limitations. Now, I'm at a place, most of the time, where I realize that people's thoughts are limited and only based on whatever experience they had.

But now, I must wrestle with my own opinions if I really wish to see change in my life. I'm starting to notice, the better I treat myself and think of myself as already worthy - not having to prove anything to anybody - I truly feel better! A bonus: people tend to treat me better too! The trick is to really start to listen to yourself. What do you say when you wake up? When things go well or bad? When someone gives you something? By noticing what you say, you can stop and evaluate if these thoughts, especially the negative ones, apply to you and can they be changed.

Here is a partial list from Mandy Evans' book Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past. Do these sound familiar?

1. "I'm not good enough to be loved."

2. "No matter what I do, I should be doing something else."

3. "If it hasn't happened yet, it never will."

4. "If you knew what I'm really like, you wouldn't want me."

5. "I don't know what I want."

6. "I upset people."

7. "Sex is dirty and nasty; save it for the one you love."

8. "Better stop wanting; if you get your hopes up, you'll get hurt."

9. "If I fail, I should feel bad for a long time and be really scared to try again."

10."I should have worked this out by now." (My personal favorite!)

These are the top ten because many of us have believed this from time to time, but what if it was possible that we were wrong? WHAT!?! WRONG!?! What if, just for a moment, we challenged these thoughts and said "HEY! That's not quite right! I'm a human being with incredible built-in systems capable of allowing me to breathe, think, feel, experience life in so many ways!" "I know I want to feel relief." "I was born with wants and desires; that's not so bad."

I'm not suggesting that everyone should be "happy smiling people holding hands," but maybe if we could just be a little kinder to ourselves, we just may see the true beauty within each of us. For now, just noticing what we think about is more than enough to put us on the path to whatever we truly want.

"What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds." - Dr. Wayne Dyer

Thank you so much for your precious time! Until we meet again, may everyday be one of joy, happiness and prosperity.

Millionaire Helena